Most of you are familiar with my horror stories of on-line dating – something that my ex-roommate convinced me to try about a year ago. In truth, I’d “tried” an on-line dating site before my roommate convinced me to seriously try the one he’d suggested. In other words, I’d set up a profile on a site simply to see what would happen; it was my trial period. I didn’t meet (in person) a single man from that site. Mostly men that I wasn’t attracted to contacted me. Of the few that I was slightly attracted to, one didn’t show up for our meeting, one kept inviting himself over to my apartment and to my sauna sessions, and the last one kept saying how attracted he was to me, but was afraid to give me his phone number. Others would send me messages once in awhile, but nothing of consequence.
So I went on the website that my roommate suggested; he insisted that it’s the best on-line dating website out there, although he was merely hooking up with women and not exactly dating any of them! I managed to go on a large number of dates within 3 months, or something like that. All of the men were nice enough (with the exception of one), but I was only truly attracted to one of them. The one that I was attracted to didn’t fit my qualifications – that he live IN San Francisco and that he did NOT have kids. Getting back to the rude one, to make a long story short, he got quite drunk on our date. In fact, he’d been drinking at another bar prior to meeting up with me. After several drinks, he started insinuating that he’d spend the night with me or vice versa. Then he became self conscious about some scar on his chin and actually sat on the other side of me so that I couldn’t see it. That was weird in itself, as I hadn’t been staring at it at all! Finally, he said something about me wearing “cheap Filipino shoes.” That’s all fine & dandy, except for the fact that I was raised amongst white redneck-type people in the Midwest, have never been to the Philippines, know next to nothing about the Filipino culture, have only a few Filipino acquaintances and haven’t the foggiest idea what Filipinos “typically” wear in the shoe category or otherwise! He’d stomped off in a huff, came back within 5 minutes to apologize, I ignored him and he left again.
Before we go any further, let me tell you this about the FIRST website. Some incredibly attractive Italian man had contacted me on there. He’d asked for my E-mail so that he could send me a picture. Of course, the picture that he sent was a NAKED one! Even though he had a beautiful body, I wrote to him that it was NOT what I’d expected. We didn’t have any further contact after that and I quit going onto that website, anyway. He then found me on Facebook due to my E-mail. I asked if he was stalking me, but he insisted that he’s not that type of person. I tentatively friended him on Facebook. Of course, his profile on there shows that he likes plenty of porn actresses and his friends seem to be composed mostly of older women. Of all the photos on my profile, the one he marked as “liked” was one of me in my pajamas. I already found that weird. Then we had some interchange where he was posting pictures of his body on his profile page. When I asked why he didn’t post more photos showing his face, he got completely bent out of shape and told me to “get off” his page if I didn’t like it. I said to myself “What a psycho!” Of course, I then defriended him, blocked him and changed both my profile name and my E-mail address on Facebook.
Now let’s move on to the only man that I was attracted to from the second website. We liked each other and would text each other occasionally, but never went on a second date, though he’d said that he wanted to. Maybe 4 months after our date, I received a text from him with… a naked picture! We never even kissed, much less talked about the possibility of having sex. So what prompted the naked picture?! You tell me! I just don’t understand men’s behavior on these dating websites (or in general).
I barely go on the second website any more. I’d done a second round of dating, consisting of 2 dates, back in December. Since then, I haven’t bothered to go out with anyone else or barely answered any of the messages from there. However, since I’m a glutton for punishment, I went onto a third dating website. A guy on there wanted to be my connection. We sent each other a few messages. I told him that he could contact me via my E-mail. He said that E-mail was “so 90’s,” but that I could text him since he’d given me his phone number. It was already apparent that he wasn’t the sharpest tool in the shed because he did NOT give me his phone number. After that, rather than deal with any drama, I deleted him as a connection. So what happens next? He found my profile on the SECOND dating website, then proceeded to write me a nasty rant about how he didn’t see how anyone could put with my attitude, that I need to get over myself and that there are plenty of the type of guys I’m looking for in the Bay area. Really? Honey, you need to let it go. If you don’t like my profile, then move along. If it hurt your feelings that I deleted you as a connection, get over it. But since he seemed to go out of his way to find my profile on another site and send me that rant, it merely confirms that he’s got nothing better to do! My response to him was “I could care less what you think,” followed by me blocking him.
Now I have a couple of connections from this third dating website. Think I’ll try Asian Pacific Islander guys this time around! It doesn’t matter to me any more; my intentions are to delete my profile from this website at the end of this month. The website keeps “suggesting” men to me in ages ranging from about 48 to 70 who look like they’re 80 and would have a heart attack if we even went dancing! Guess I’ll resign myself to vacation romances where I’ll have met the guys IN PERSON first!
In the meantime, guys, what’s up with all of this hostility and naked pictures?! Shed some light, please.